Have you ever been extremely frustrated because immediate answers to a problem or situation were not readily available? Or what about being frustrated because a certain outcome had not turned out the way that you had hoped? We can find ourselves more frustrated than we’d like to be many times throughout our lives.
Frustration is a common emotional response to adversity and although it happens to everyone, there are some of us who have lower frustration tolerances than others. Low Frustration Tolerance, also known as LFT, is a concept developed by psychologist Albert Ellis. It’s defined as seeking immediate pleasure to avoid pain or stress at the cost of long-term stress and complications.
A low tolerance for frustration or discomfort can lead to false beliefs such as:
“The world owes me because I’ve been through so much.”
“Things should go as I desire them to go.”
“I must avoid frustration at all cost because I don’t think that I can handle it.”
Because it can seem so much easier to give into the urge to pacify a stressful situation or scary feelings, LFT can lead one to develop addictive tendencies such as excessive gambling or shopping, drug, alcohol and even food abuse. Sure there are ways to reduce the amount of stress that you experience in your life, but what can you do to overcome Low Frustration Tolerance? You can:
1. Realize that things may not always go the way that you feel they should go and that’s okay. The world is a more creative and energetic place in that way. Can you imagine what the world would be like if it went exactly as we planned it to? It would probably be a little dull that way.
2. Cultivate the understanding that every experience is an opportunity for learning and growth. Our frustrations show us what we need to work on in order to bring positive changes into our lives. Know that in the end, you have the power and possess the tools that you need to make positive change happen in your life.
3. Cultivate the understanding that happiness comes from within. Your happiness is ultimately in your hands and you must find it within yourself in order to experience true happiness. It may seem like the source of happiness comes from other people or things outside of yourself, but it actually begins inside of you.
4. Find healthy ways to deal with stressful situations. There are many healthy ways that you can manage your stress levels. Be sure to check out the post 6 Stress Diffusers That You Can Use Right Now, which gives you some creative ways to manage stress as soon as it arises!
Low Frustration Tolerance can sabotage the progress that you wish to make in your life, but there are steps that you can take right now to overcome it. It’s ultimately up to you.