There are so many relationships that you will build with others throughout the course of your lifetime. And spending time with those that you care about the most, while building strong foundations for those intimate relationships can be one the greatest, most awesome’est feelings in the world!
Every relationship is truly unique in its own way, yet all healthy relationships tend to be structured around several different key elements.
When you understand those key elements, your healthy relationships can be enhanced to the fullest, plus supply you with deep inner fulfillment.
But why is this most important to your relationships? Because without these key elements you may find that your relationships become sticky, strained or unrepairable.
And we don’t want that, now do we?
Even though relationships can be a very special part of life’s experiences, there may still be lessons that need to be learned and integrated. Relationships are a “work in progress”. A labor of love, right?
That’s why it’s really important to know where there is room to grow in your relationships. The following will help you determine where your relationships could use a little BOOST, but it’s ultimately up to you on what you choose to experience, but at least you’ll be well informed.
So here goes…
All healthy relationships include these 9 key elements:
When you have open communication in your relationships, all parties can speak freely to one another about their thoughts and their feelings without backlash, plus each person is able to talk openly about any disagreements while working through them.
Yeah, it’s easier said than done, but communication is a giant factor in having a successful relationship because it allows clarity between you and your partner.
Without clarity all you have is assumptions…and you know what they say about assumptions.
In a healthy relationship, the people involved should feel supported and connected, yet still be able to function independently and have interests of their own.
Have you ever witnessed co-dependency in action? It’s not a very lovely site to say the least.
Co-dependency occurs when a person in a relationship relies on another for meeting nearly all of their emotional and self-esteem needs. It also describes a relationship that enables a person to maintain irresponsible, addictive, or self-undermining behavior because the other is afraid of losing their mate or their relationship.
When you have healthy boundaries in your relationships, you’re able to stand on your own and so is your partner. This isn’t to say that you won’t need help from time to time, but not in a way that you or your partner won’t be able to function without one another.
When you have mutual respect in your relationships, there is trust and honesty present between the people involved. Each person is able to listen to the other, as each person takes turns being heard.
And when there’s mutual respect present, there is also compromise when needed and also space and privacy because you understand the meaning of and value true partnership.
When you have mutual commitment in your relationships, all parties value, nurture and protect the relationship by making it a priority.
For example, you both invest time into the relationship and work together on the growth of your relationship because you understand that growth equals reward.
There is also acceptance if anyone wants want to end the relationship because you understand that healthy relationships allow for each person to make choices for themselves.
When you have mutual cooperation in your relationships, all parties are able to make decisions together and both contribute positive energy to the union.
This can feel really amazing and it also shows you positive signs that your relationship has great potential for future growth.
Mutual cooperation is also great because coming together with someone to achieve a mutual goal often leads to reaping the benefits together.
SAFETY & TRUST
When you have a healthy and safe relationship, all parties feel safe from being harmed by the other and there’s no physical, verbal, or emotional abuse present.
For example, there’s no ignoring one another and there’s no physical spats. Healthy relationships are never based on power, control or mental game playing.
SUPPORT & AFFECTION
When you have mutual support and affection in your relationships, the relationship feels nurturing and the feelings of the all parties can be expressed openly. You and your partner are able to feel good about yourself and about one another.
Sounds wonderful right?
Plus, affection and support speaks volumes. It says, “Hey, I openly care about you.” …It’s just one of those things that needs no translation.
When you can have fun in your relationship, you and your partner are able to have great times together as both of you participate in activities that are mutually enjoyable and enhancing.
This is one of my favorite qualities of a relationship because life should be celebrated with playfulness.
And what better way to do this, than with the ones that you care about the most? Making room for fun in your relationships will also allow you to keep things fresh, new and exciting.
Being vulnerable means putting yourself out there in your relationship.
Yeah, it can feel a bit scary to completely open yourself up, but you gotta know that criticism, rejection or even hurt is just a very small part of life and they always teach us something.
How else would you know if your partner is the right fit for you if you’re never your authentic self around them? Never let a fear of being vulnerable be bigger than the love that you have to give.
Healthy relationships can be the sources of many enjoyable life experiences, plus they can provide you with many opportunities for deep inner fulfillment and joy in life.
Remember, in any healthy relationship, all parties involved should be able to share both emotionally and physically stimulating experiences together.
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